By: Denell Nawrocki, MA
For most of my life I felt like I needed to DO THINGS in order to make things happen in my life. I always seemed to force my way through situations and circumstances, MAKING them happen the way I wanted them to. This always left me feeling depleted and unwell. Even if I was getting what I wanted, it never seemed like enough. My heart was never full, and my mind always wandered to the next thing.
When I began down the path of self awareness, meditation, and nature connection, I slowly began to realize that I had been doing it all wrong. The Earth creates and produces some of the most INCREDIBLY BEAUTIFUL and INSPIRATIONAL things known to us, yet she never FORCES it to happen. It simply happens. There is no force in creation.
I began to think about this understanding in relation to 'getting what I wanted'. If nothing in this world is forced (naturally), then what did that mean for me forcing an outcome? What was I doing in relation to the possibilities of what could be? Was my constricted notion of the intended outcome blocking me from the incredible potentials of WHAT COULD BE?
I began to change the way I was relating to what I was doing. Where there was once fear and pressure, I replaced with faith, trust and ease. This new way of Being was difficult at first, but as I loosened my grip on the intended outcome of even THIS 'action', I noticed something:
Possibilities I hadn't even IMAGINED began to unfold.
Potentials that had not even crossed my little mind began to manifest.
Suddenly I realized that I was being guided (by my heart) to a state of flow unlike anything I had known prior. And soon after this, I began to receive that which I had always longed for- monetary stability, self love, positive body relationship, a clear understanding of my direction, community.
This may seem like a catch 22 but what I have learned is that in order to RECEIVE that which you ASK FOR AND TRULY DESIRE, you must LET IT GO and OPEN YOURSELF UP TO THE POSSIBILITY. There is a non-action associated with the action. It is one of the most difficult things we as modern humans can do (what! NOT be in control?!), but the rewards of LETTING IT ALL GO are tremendous.
I now actively choose to DO NOTHING, and allow my Body and Heart to guide me to the action.
When I say DO NOTHING, I don't mean 'do nothing and sit on the couch all day'.
I mean 'do not force anything to happen but allow it to be magnetized to you and receive it with an open heart.'
I invite you to give this a go, even if just for one day.
In the morning, set some intentions for your day, and then allow the soft voices of your heart and body to guide to through Time to where you need to go.
You may find that synchronicity and miracles begin to happen.
Let go into the flow of life. Forcing it only leads to unnecessary discomfort.
Denell Nawrocki, MA is an Integrative Wellness Coach, Health Educator, Ethnohistorian, and Women's Health Advocate. You can find out more about her and her work at www.generativehealth.org.
My capacity to care is loosely based around my capacity to cease judgment.
Although it is nearly impossible to “not judge at all”, I have noticed in me an ability to not listen to the judgmental voices playing in my head and what comes of that when I do.
For example, my partner pulled a muscle in his back causing him to partially debilitated and in great pain. He hobbled around the house attempting to help me with the daily chores and cooking. Finally, the physical pain became so great that he needed to stop altogether and take care of himself.
All the while my mind went a little something like this:
“Gosh, look at him. If he only worked out a little more and strengthened himself, this would not have happened.”
“Ugh, now I have to do everything around the house because he is hurt!”
“I think he just wants to get out of helping me.”
“He must not be in THAT much pain because he was able to work all day.”
And on, and on, and on….
"We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all."